About Calm Chaos Co.
Military culture tells you to be tougher. Work harder. Sacrifice more.
We don't believe that.
We believe leadership effectiveness comes from leading smarter through emotional intelligence and sustainable systems that work with unpredictable military life.
I'm Gayleen, and I learned this the hard way.
As the oldest daughter of immigrant parents, I learned early that taking care of everyone else comes first. That self-care is selfish. That pushing through is always the answer.
The military reinforced every one of those beliefs.
I managed my depression and PTSD alone out of fear of consequences if I went to behavioral health. I didn't seek professional treatment until after the military - only after hitting the worst depressive episode I'd experienced since I was 12.
The fatigue and stress contributed to a chronic autoimmune condition. My body taught me what military culture wouldn't: taking care of myself isn't selfish - it's necessary to lead well. Pushing through is a tool for the right moments, not every moment.
I watched brilliant female military leaders suffer the same consequences—marriages crumble and their relationships with their kids deteriorate because nobody taught them how to create harmony between the mission, motherhood, marriage and their own wellbeing.
The cost was too high. The pattern had to break.
That's why we built Calm Chaos Co.
Most leadership programs teach you what to do. We teach you how to recognize when you're running on empty and honor your needs without appearing weak. You learn where your energy leaks are - and how to plug them.
You're not refilling a cup with holes. You're building a bigger vessel you can pour more from.
Our clients succeed because they learn to create custom systems that flex with deployment cycles instead of breaking when the mission changes. They stop becoming the burnt-out senior leaders they feared turning into. They stop fragmenting between uniform and civilian life and start showing up as integrated leaders who understand their wellbeing amplifies their mission effectiveness.
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About Calm Chaos Co.
Military culture tells you to be tougher. Work harder. Sacrifice more.
We don't believe that.
We believe leadership effectiveness comes from leading smarter through emotional intelligence and sustainable systems that work with unpredictable military life.
I'm Gayleen, and I learned this the hard way.
As the oldest daughter of immigrant parents, I learned early that taking care of everyone else comes first. That self-care is selfish. That pushing through is always the answer.
The military reinforced every one of those beliefs.
I managed my depression and PTSD alone out of fear of consequences if I went to behavioral health. I didn't seek professional treatment until after the military - only after hitting the worst depressive episode I'd experienced since I was 12.
The fatigue and stress contributed to a chronic autoimmune condition. My body taught me what military culture wouldn't: taking care of myself isn't selfish - it's necessary to lead well. Pushing through is a tool for the right moments, not every moment.
I watched brilliant female military leaders suffer the same consequences—marriages crumble and their relationships with their kids deteriorate because nobody taught them how to create harmony between the mission, motherhood, marriage and their own wellbeing.
The cost was too high. The pattern had to break.
That's why we built Calm Chaos Co.
Most leadership programs teach you what to do. We teach you how to recognize when you're running on empty and honor your needs without appearing weak. You learn where your energy leaks are - and how to plug them.
You're not refilling a cup with holes. You're building a bigger vessel you can pour more from.
Our clients succeed because they learn to create custom systems that flex with deployment cycles instead of breaking when the mission changes. They stop becoming the burnt-out senior leaders they feared turning into. They stop fragmenting between uniform and civilian life and start showing up as integrated leaders who understand their wellbeing amplifies their mission effectiveness.
What Sets Us Apart
The Coaching Experience
You've tried leadership coaching before.
It didn't account for duty rotations, deployment cycles, or the fact that you can't just "set boundaries" with your chain of command without consequences.
The Coaching Experience is different.
This is 12 months of personalized support built around military unpredictability - not against it. You learn to set boundaries without damaging your career. You prioritize your wellbeing without sacrificing opportunities. You develop grace for yourself and others when plans change, because in military life, they always do.
You get direct access through video calls, phone, and WhatsApp when your schedule allows. Custom frameworks that adapt as your situation changes. Priority access to courses and resources. Invites to exclusive mastermind sessions with other military leaders who understand the weight of proving yourself in masculine environments.
This isn't for you if: You're looking for someone to tell you exactly what to do, hand you a quick fix, or do the work for you.
This is for you if: You're ready to build sustainable systems that work with your military reality - and you're willing to show up for yourself the way you show up for your team.
Spots are limited. Join our community to learn more and book your complimentary discovery call.
Reviews
She was able to give me guidance, because of that, I feel more confident and empowered to move forward. I highly recommend Gayleen to anyone seeking guidance, direction, and support on their personal growth journey.
As someone with ADHD, I really struggle with time management. As I was stepping into a new leadership role, I knew I would need to get systems in place...Gayleen's pragmatic approach to both leadership and systemization of my time management really spoke to me.
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Audits for Leaders
You can't ask your chain of command to audit your productivity.
That conversation shows up on your eval.
We provide outside audits with no career risk.
Capacity audits identify where your energy leaks and how to plug them.
Meeting audits improve structure so you're not wasting your team's time.
Project audits leverage 15+ years of project management experience to strengthen your leadership.
Expert feedback that protects your career trajectory.
Coaching Experience Package
You've tried leadership coaching before.
It didn't account for duty rotations, deployment cycles, or the fact that you can't just "set boundaries" with your chain of command without consequences.
The Coaching Experience is different.
This is 12 months of personalized support built around military unpredictability - not against it. You learn to set boundaries without damaging your career. You prioritize your wellbeing without sacrificing opportunities. You develop grace for yourself and others when plans change, because in military life, they always do.
You get direct access through video calls, phone, and WhatsApp when your schedule allows. Custom frameworks that adapt as your situation changes. Priority access to courses and resources. Invites to exclusive mastermind sessions with other military leaders who understand the weight of proving yourself in masculine environments.
This isn't for you if: You're looking for someone to tell you exactly what to do, hand you a quick fix, or do the work for you.
This is for you if: You're ready to build sustainable systems that work with your military reality - and you're willing to show up for yourself the way you show up for your team.
Spots are limited. Join our community to learn more and book your complimentary discovery call.
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Reviews
She was able to give me guidance, because of that, I feel more confident and empowered to move forward. I highly recommend Gayleen to anyone seeking guidance, direction, and support on their personal growth journey.
As someone with ADHD, I really struggle with time management. As I was stepping into a new leadership role, I knew I would need to get systems in place...Gayleen's pragmatic approach to both leadership and systemization of my time management really spoke to me.
About Our Founder
I've been part of the military community my entire life. I was born in Hawaii at my father’s first assignment, raised around the world - Texas became home. Then, I served nearly 10 years as an Air Force logistics readiness officer. And now I’m a military spouse.
I started leading at 15 in Army JROTC and never stopped. I planned unit relocations and presidential receptions. I led volunteer teams with the Red Cross, Ronald McDonald House, and USO. After leaving the Air Force, I became a VP leading change and project management teams at a financial institution - building teams and leading projects that impacted 300+ employees.
Twenty years of leadership across military, corporate, and community environments taught me what works and what breaks people.
I'm a certified Project Management Professional. I've led in high-stakes environments where mission success depends on sustainable systems, not willpower alone.
But my most important qualification? I've been where you are. I know what it costs to lead without the tools to sustain yourself - and how to build those tools so you don't pay the same price.
Learn More
By joining our community
Become a member by subscribing to our newsletter and receive...
Special rates on coaching packages and audits
Early access on new programs
Grant and raffle notifications
Focus group and mastermind invites
Tips on leadership, wellbeing, and more!
Contact Us
Phone
(254) 602-4736
2026 Gayleen Swiggum| Lim Sue Aun Global LLC. All rights reserved.